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Understanding The Options

The ideally solution for a marriage in trouble is to learn about the underlying issues and work together to repair it if possible, however there are many situations where it is better to get divorced. Once the decision to divorce has been made, couples must decide on one of several approaches, and the best approach depends entirely upon the situation at hand. Factors that are important in deciding on the best option include the ability for a couple to work together to resolve the divorce agreement, whether there are children involved, the size and complexity of the couple's finances, the length of the marriage and the age of the people.

Here are the most common options for couples with a troubled marriage:
  • Fix your marriage: if it makes sense and is possible, work through your issues and fix your marriage!

  • Negotiating through attorneys: This is the most typical method of getting divorced. This method is effective when the marriage is long-term, when the finances are sizable or complicated, when the couple cannot work through a negotiation themselves or with a mediator.

  • Litigation: Litigation is the process of having the court examine the facts and make a decision on all aspects of the divorce. Litigation is what happens when the couple cannot come to an agreement by any other means. Often, couples that negotiate through attorneys end their divorce in court.

  • Annulment: This option typically engages one of the other process listed here to work through the details, but annulling differs from divorce because it declares the marriage void.

  • Separation: Although most people separate during the in anticipation of or during divorce process, one option is a permanent separation. This option is most often the case when a couple is older and has a complicated estate and decide to not incur the expense of divorce, although there are other reasons that people may prefer to not divorce.

  • Mediation: For those who have the ability to work together, mediation is an excellent option. A mediator can both keep the process moving and be objective. One word of caution: it is not uncommon at the end of mediation for a couple to seek final advice from their attorney and decide to unravel the agreement they worked so hard on.

  • Collaborative divorce: Collaborative divorce is a new alternative to mediation where a single team of professionals including both parties' attorneys work with the couple to work quickly to a divorce.

  • Do-it-yourself divorce: This is an ideal option for those who do not feel they need advice. This might be the choice for people with no complications such as children, joint assets, and for whom have a short-term marriage.

  • On-line divorce: For the do-it-yourselfers, one option is to work through the divorce online. On-line divorce services provide the forms and some research and tools to facilitate the process.

Divorce Partner provides more detail for these options individually, and also a head start with a pre-divorce checklist for those trying to understand how to get started.

* NOTICE: * Any advice provided here represent the opionions and research of the writer and are for informational purposes only. For guidance relating to your specific needs, contact a professional.
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