Time limits: The separation is given a set time frame, usually 1-6 months.
Legal counsel: Both individuals agree not to file for divorce during the CS.
Moving out: The couple decides who moves out or the rules for an in-house separation.
Home furnishings: The couple fairly divides home furnishings.
Finances: The couple works out a manageable budget for separated living.
Children: Their welfare is put first and terms for time with the children and family activities are set out.
Couple\'s continuing relationship: The couple agrees on the extent of continued interaction and intimacy.
Dating others: The couple determines whether or not they will see others while separated.
Confidentiality: The couple agrees whom to tell about the separation.
Teamwork and homework: The couple avoids analyzing the factors that led to separation and do structured assignments, facilitated by a counselor as necessary, to address marital problems.
CS contract: The contract is finalized in writing.
Renegotiation: If needed, provisions for renegotiating a contract are made.
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